All Our Days

Song #24 - rough demo

My partner is my biggest supporter. We met back in the 90s when I auditioned to be the lead singer for his band. That project was, and still is, one of the best musical experiences I’ve ever had. Even then, I knew he was a very special person. Smart and deeply talented, he has that rare quality that turns every project he touches into gold. We dated briefly in the 90s. At the time, I was dealing with a lot of trauma and undiagnosed ADHD. My personal life was kind of a mess, and I also wanted my freedom. I wasn’t ready to settle down, and he was. I remember the time right before he moved away. I pretended it didn’t bother me that he was leaving, which was the same thing I did when my father left after my parents’ divorce when I was 12. Funny how we repeat the same behaviors we’ve learned to protect ourselves.

Fast forward almost 20 years, and we were both on the other side of long term relationships that hadn’t worked out. We reconnected and started dating long distance. After almost two years, I moved to join him. That was nearly seven years ago.

Since then, we’ve gone through a pandemic together, cared for an elderly parent with dementia, navigated parenting challenges and grief, and have both been diagnosed with ADHD. We’ve worked so hard to figure all of this out and become the best people we can be. It’s been really, really hard at times, but I think we’re finally on the other side of much of it now.

When you’re with the right person, the bond at the core of that relationship is something incredible. There are still days when we feel like we’re hanging on by our fingernails (life keeps on rolling), but we’re doing it, and we know we have each other.

This song is about enduring relationships, youth, and the sense of freedom that can come with being young before life becomes heavy with responsibility. It’s about reaching a certain age and realizing you may not have forever to do the things you’ve always dreamed of doing. It’s about aging, feeling invisible, surviving, and carrying the weight of everything life asks of us. It’s also about making it through failed relationships, caregiving, financial stress, grief, a pandemic, a recession, and all the other difficult chapters that shape us over time. Mostly, it’s about what it means to keep going, and to keep coming back to each other through it all.

It’s also about being lifted up by someone who sees something in you before you can see it in yourself. I had never been “cool”, and I had a challenging upbringing and a low opinion of myself. My partner took me under his wing and showed me that I was capable of things I never thought I could do. He has helped me become a stronger and more confident version of myself. Even now, after all these years, he’s still doing that for me.

Late 90s - New Year’s Eve

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All Our Days

Lyrics

I remember when you were just a kid

I remember all the things we did

You and your big brown eyes

Felt so safe I felt alive

We were free you and me

I remember we thought we were cool

How you always included me too

You pulled me in and gave me a chance

Told me I was more than I could have imagined

You took me in

We are not gone

We are not alone

We still move in the same way

I’m here for you for all

all our days

All these years they shaped who we are

We got beat up and came back strong

We can do whatever we want

As long as we’ve got each other

C’mon let’s keep on

We’re surviving one day at a time

You’ve got your struggle I’ve got mine

We’re two sides of the same coin

We can do this we just need something divine

All in good time

We are not gone

We are not alone

We still move in the same way

I’m here for you for all

All our days

I remember when you were just a kid

I remember all the things we did

You and your big brown eyes

Felt so safe I felt alive

We were free you and me

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